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Newborn care basics, from a neonatologist of 45 years

The first three months, calmly explained. Feeding, sleeping, soothing, and the small handful of things that genuinely warrant a call to your pediatrician.

The first three months with a newborn are unlike any other period in parenting. Beautiful and exhausting in equal measure. After forty-five years in pediatrics and neonatology, I can offer a steadier voice than the algorithm-driven advice that fills new parent feeds today. The basics have not changed.

Feeding

Feed on demand, every 2 to 3 hours
Including overnight in the early weeks. Watch for hunger cues like rooting and hand-to-mouth, not just crying. Crying is a late hunger cue.
Track diapers as much as ounces
Six or more wet diapers a day after the first week is a good general sign of adequate intake. The diaper count tells you more than the scale.
Burp during and after feeds
A simple thirty seconds of upright burping after each feed reduces gas pain and spit-up significantly.

Sleep

Newborns sleep in short bursts, totaling 14 to 17 hours a day. Day-night confusion is normal in the first few weeks. Help them learn the difference by keeping daytime naps in normal light with normal household noise, and overnight feedings dim and quiet. Always on the back, in their own safe sleep surface, with no loose blankets or bumpers.

Soothing

The five S's still work: swaddle, side or stomach hold, shush, swing, suck. Combine them, do not just try one. Crying typically peaks around six weeks and improves from there. If you ever feel like you are about to lose it, put the baby safely in the crib and step away for two minutes. That is the safe move, every time.

What is normal that worries new parents

Hiccups. Brief startles. Spit-up after feeds. Squeaky breathing sounds. Erratic sleep patterns. Crossed eyes for the first six weeks. Tiny rashes that come and go. Cradle cap. Most of these are normal and need no intervention.

When to call

Any rectal temperature of 100.4 F or higher in a baby under three months. Refusal to feed. Unusual lethargy. Jaundice that is getting worse, not better. Fewer wet diapers than expected. A baby who simply does not seem right to you. Call early, not late.

Frequently asked

How often should a newborn eat?

Most newborns eat every two to three hours, including overnight. By two months that often stretches a little. Cluster feeding in the evenings is normal and not a sign of low supply.

How much should my newborn sleep?

Newborns sleep 14 to 17 hours a day in short bursts. Day-night confusion is common in the first few weeks and usually sorts itself out by six to eight weeks.

When does the baby finally stop crying so much?

Crying typically peaks around six weeks and gradually decreases. The first three months can be intense. It does get easier.

Tummy time, when and how much?

Start within the first week, even just a minute or two at a time. Build up gradually. By two months, aim for a total of 15 to 30 minutes per day spread across short sessions.

When should I call about a newborn?

Any fever, refusal to feed, unusual sleepiness, jaundice that is worsening, fewer wet diapers than expected, or a baby who simply does not seem right. Call early, not late.

Related reading: sleep by age and when to call the pediatrician. To talk about your newborn specifically, book a consultation.

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